
MERRY
CHRISTMAS
Written by: Bob Baldwin
12/11/2008 10:33 PM
1. Please don't shout advice to your player during the game. Shout encouragement? You bet. A steady stream of technique suggestions, though, has no value. Your insightful tips may conflict with my instruction.
2. Please don't harass the refs. Parents that loudly harass the referee are embarrassing to the player and the team.
When a parent makes a spectacle of himself at a game, the player is embarrassed. If the ref is being reamed by a parent for a bad call (by definition, a bad call is any decision made against the parent's child), what does the player learn? He learns that the mistake wasn't his fault. It was the result of poor officiating. This is a bad habit to get into.
Don't encourage your child to place the blame for their failures upon others. One of the benefits of playing sports is learning to accept responsibility instead of making excuses.
Sometimes a call is hard to take for whatever reason. Such times are tests of emotional control. If a player can learn to bite his lip and move on, a parent can learn to sit quietly for a moment and let the emotion pass. Learning to cope with disappointment is a valuable life skill.
3. Don't blame the coach for your child's problems or lack of playing time. Your child's struggles to succeed are your child's problems. Let him work them out without your interference. A player has every right to ask a coach what needs to be done to earn more playing time, for example. But a parent stepping in to demand playing time is another thing altogether.
4. Please don't talk bad about the coach in front of your child. The worst thing a parent can do is take pot shots at the coach, criticizing decisions, and complaining about his leadership. Support the coach and stand behind his decisions.
5. Please don't razz the other team's players. The other team's players should be considered off limits. Yelling at or deriding someone else's child is a shameful practice for an adult at a sporting event. Parents who intend to disrupt, distract or upset players exhibit the worst of poor sportsmanship.
As a parent, be involved in a positive way. Attend your child's games as often as you can. Cheer for all the kids on the team. Help with fund raising. Assist with logistics. If you're not sure how to help, ask the coach.
There is probably a hundred ways to be a good team member and a good parent at the same time. When the larger definition of team is working well, the experience can be wonderful for everyone involved. People who see our program in action will want to be a part of it. Parents looking ahead to when their child will be old enough to participate will want to fit in and help. This kind of teamwork perpetuates itself. Once it gets momentum, it can be quite a force. It just takes parents who care.
Gate fees for the tournament are:
From the south/west - (Caldwell on highway 21).
From the North or South - (Highway 6).
BVCHEA Basketball Season Sign-up and Mandatory Meeting
September 1, 2009 at Aldersgate Church 7pm-9pm
We will Serve Hot Dogs, Chips and Drinks at 7pm
When: September 1, 2009 7pm-9pm
Where: Aldersgate United Methodist Church next to Gander Mountain
Who: Players and Parents of Boys and Girls 8 years old to 19 years old that are home schooled and
This is a mandatory meeting for all parents who will have children playing in the BVCHEA Basketball Program this fall and spring. We will have a player sign-up this night. For the 2009-10 season we will have teams for all boys and girls age groups from 4th grade (8 or 9 years old) to Seniors (18 or 19 years old).
For those parents who are still considering the possibility of signing up their children and have questions, this would be the time to come and learn more about the program and get your questions answered. We will discuss the season, coaches, practice, fees, and player, parent, and coach expectations for the coming year.
The entire family is welcome to come and eat with us. Parents must supervise children at all times
This is a competitive program that plays other public, private, and homeschool programs. Official practice will begin sometime on or after September 14. The Regular Season will last until January 31 and there are optional post season activities that go through March 20, 2010.